- Although traditionally the bride’s parents have hosted the Engagement Party, these days a family member or friend may decide to host the event. But whoever hosts the Engagement Party, it should be done within 3 months of the official announcement to family and friends.

The party can be informal or elegant. The venue could be a home or a favorite restaurant. If the couple have a favorite activity or interest, it could be nice to hold the party at a place or area that is special to them. An example would be at a local art museum if they like the arts. Or maybe a theater for a pair of actors.  But no matter where the party is held, the budget and location needs to be considered.

The guest list is usually made up of people who will be invited to the wedding. Not the whole guest list, only those who are good friends and of course families. It would be considered poor taste to invite someone to the Engagement Party who will not be invited to the wedding!  Gifts are usually not brought to an Engagement Party, but in some cultures and families it is the norm.  My suggestion would be to open any gifts brought by guests after the party so there would be no embarrassment to guests who did not bring a gift.  With that said, it couldn’t hurt to start a bridal registry before the Engagement Party, but invitations do not mention the registry.

Sometimes the Engagement Party is where two families meet for the very first time. It is wise to keep that mind and make everyone comfortable.  This may mean a more casual setting if one of the families is not used to a black tie affair.  If one of the engaged couple’s friends knows both families, perhaps that person would be an excellent Greeter to introduce everyone as they arrive to the other guests.

Menus, like the venue, can be simple appetizers to a full sit-down dinner. Or perhaps a morning brunch or luncheon. Whatever the menu, it is most appropriate to "raise the glass" to toast the newly engaged couple’s happiness.  This is definitely a place for champagne and flutes!